Most of us can’t stand the stigma of “you suck!”, i.e., imaginary “Loser!” attacks insinuated through the outward L-shape hand gesture against the forehead of those around mocking us everywhere we go. To avoid such disgrace, we become in denial of incurred failure and resort the first order of business to overturning false prophets and retaining status at all costs. In Vanity Fair spat, empowering lessons get reduced to embarrassment and we become the scrutinizing pedant that loses sight of the big picture.
Progressive outlook set us free, as evolution has it, failure is exactly what is needed to succeed!
According to Allison Tabor of CPC – Coppia Advisory, there are times and times again when her customers realize that problems are looming but have no idea how to tackle them.
What she keeps telling them is: “Embrace your suck and focus on your strengths.”
Allison Tabor says many find it difficult to accept their own weaknesses and try to reject them, ignore or even try anything to avoid seeing them as shortcomings. In other words, we choose to focus on something we are not good at. Nowadays, however, it has been much easier to solve these problems thanks to technological development that enhances our knowledge. By just visiting Google, you have all the answers! Besides, there is Youtube or even online training courses. But all of these can potentially lead to severe mistakes caused by easy data access which does not in any way mean unlimited learning. To the contrary, we are faced with the so-called information overload where it is very difficult to know which is correct and which isn’t.
It is worth noting that, whenever the focus is on our shortcomings, it means we are competing in a game to win without focusing on improving what we are good at, i.e., as it is impossible to be an expert in everything, particularly the things we are not good at. “I’m not saying that you do not need to correct your weaknesses but instead calling your attention to your strengths which you should use as ‘selling points’ rather than spend most of your time correcting your weaknesses.” So, instead of trying to correct yourself, you should first ask yourself what The Suck is in your case and then try to embrace it while looking for a way to cope with what might happen. This involves the utilization of nature in you to attain business growth.
Now, let’s see how to focus on your strengths. According to Allison Tabor,
“Focusing on our strengths rather than our shortcomings will pay much greater dividends.”
First, ask yourself:
- Where has my attention been going?
- Have I found myself focusing on what I think I need to do, rather than what I’m excited about and drawn to do?
- What pops up as being in natural alignment with my talents?
Having known and understood what you are good at, you will be able to quickly enhance your expertise. Embracing who you are is the key success factor to success. After all, self-development starts with a survey of yourself. If you learn to give priority to what you want, like and can do, all kinds of opportunities will pop up. Perhaps they are already right in front of you but you failed to notice because you had been so focused on something else; things that you are not good at, particularly, ones perceived in your immediate peer group. To ignore unnecessary noise, on the other hand, and handle information overload effectively, a degree of objectivity is required as well, i.e., the ability to reason and act despite the influence of self perception, emotion or interest. In Por-Piang terms, it is coined as Khunnatham. At the end of the day, one student goes home knowing exactly what she’s good at while the other knows only what he can’t do.
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